Love Language

Years ago, a therapist told me about a book called "The 5 Love Languages"by Gary Chapman, she told me that I needed to read it and that my husband needed to read it. I bought the book I read it, I understood it, I soaked it up, I wanted to live by it except he wouldn't read it, he thought it was dumb.    A year after I asked for a divorce, he told me about a book his friend recommend , The 5 Love Languages ...are you freaking kidding me?  Yep, same book, only his friend told him to read it so he did, it was too late by then, too many things had happened, too many words of hate and destruction had been spoken.   The love that I had for him was gone.   He didn't want to make an effort when I did, didn't see the worth in it until I was walking away.  

 What is it about people, why do people want what they can't have?  Why suddenly when the door is closing do people decide to try?   I'm just as guilty as the next person, making efforts when I see someone turning around to leave.   We don't realize what we had until what we had is gone.   

My Love Language was Physical Touch, I needed that and craved that more than anything.   I don't know what it is now, I'd have to go through the book again, I'm not who I was.   I still crave the physical touch, yet, I believe maybe my needs are different now, who knows....maybe one day I'll have a reason to get the book out again and see what my Love Language is.

My point to this is simple....A) Don't let someone you love turn around and walk away, don't wait until its too late to make the effort    2)  Make sure that if you are the one walking away that you have given it your all....be patient, be understanding and love with all of your heart.   Don't give  them a reason not to try.